Personally, I'd just as soon be thrown out of the back of my pick up and let the buzzards and yotes have at me. It matters not, I'm living in a tent.
I have a right to be buried with full military honors, but, I chosen not to do that, no memorial, will probably be cremated because just throwing me to the side of the road is illegal. My ashes can be spread to the 4 winds as far as I care.
I came into this world alone, and I don't need anyone to help me out.
If someone decided to do something stupid and have a memorial or wake, I request they play this throughout the whole damn nonsense.
John Prine- Please Don't Bury Me, Live, 4- 22- 09 - YouTube