Daxx, once you've made your choice on weapons, try this place for purchasing the weapon and the ammo. Cheaper Than Dirt - America's Ultimate Sports Discounter
they can walk you through all the nonsense of purchasing in California, get the best price for the weapons and ammo.
ammo, good Lord. It is a nightmare to find and insanely expensive. Keep that in mind when choosing your hand gun.
I prefer Glocks. I have small hands too, but a Glock 30 is 45 cal. and I have no problems with it. It is my weapon of choice and the one I carry in my shoulder holster as I have a CCW