I used to "flop" my tongue but didn't like the look. Maybe 5 years ago or so I started putting my shins over the tongue and liked it better. Not sure if the shins pushing down on a flopped tongue might contribute to the loosening up of your laces or not? One thing is for certain, do not over tighten wax laces like you would with the regular ones. They won't budge at all, and your feet will hate you. Also, I used to double knot my laces with the old ones, last night went with a single knot with the waxed and was fine all game long.
Thanks i think ill try tucking in for once. Also only thing that saves me is my skates having that lace lock and it doesnt give much way as my old skates without it did. This is the year of skating better and progressing as embarrassing as it is during public skate im taking my time to learn instead of just skating around forward and being happy with that.