That's the thing. On the one hand you're saying he didn't get a fair shot and on the other hand you're saying you don't know how he didn't get a fair shot. So what is it? If you think he didn't get a fair shot...how is it he didn't?
Is there ANYONE who didn't want him to succeed? Seriously, name one person who didn't want him to succeed.
I disagree 100%. Not one single successful NHL coach makes decisions based on personalities unless the "personality conflict" shows up as a problem elsewhere (like breaking curfew, long-shifting, not playing within the coach's game plan, or maybe making fun of Dustin Brown's speech impediment). I guarantee you that TM is not going to bench Trevor Moore because he doesn't like Moore's personality. If he gets benched it's because he's doing something wrong. Player and commentator after player and commentator have said it. You make it sound like Vilardi should get a free pass on his actual play and attitude on and off the ice.
Best "men"? Hmmmm...
Your example shows your style had nothing to do with personalities. It was all about performance and doing what you, as the supervisor, laid out for them to do. If they did it, they were out front, if they didn't they weren't. That's not "personality conflicts", that's your people doing what you (as the supervisor) told them to do...or not doing it and suffering the consequences.
I don't know what else to say other than player after player who talks about it thinks differently than you. The way you're putting it sounds like Vilardi should be playing and isn't because TM doesn't like his personality and it has nothing to do with his play on the ice. And that's just flat out wrong.
Sure, but that has nothing to do with a "personality conflict". It's that he doesn't do the things the coaches tell him to do. They say it, his teammates have said it, hell even HE has said it.
I don't know what games you watched but look at the stats and maybe rewatch the games. Vilardi's play was NOT fine.
EVERYONE is disappointed he's on his way out. But it's not TM and some "personality conflict." It's Vilardi and his willingness to play the way TM demands his players play.